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By drpaulpeebles, Nov 9 2017 04:11PM

Once fertilization is accomplished, we fathers can often feel a sense of displacement and even a bit of jealousy. Pregnancy can begin to threaten our identity as a husband and as the person who was previously the primary thought of our wives. This displacement may cause us to back off and avoid being proud as potential fathers. As one father put it after attending various birthing classes, parties and baby showers, “The talk is forever about only this baby! Nobody knows even who I am or what I do!”


At childbirth classes, prospective parents are taught breathing techniques, breastfeeding is discussed and books are introduced that describe everything about childbirth except for the father’s role. Although the father is involved and excited with anticipation, he may also experience a foreboding sense of exclusion.


Fathers resent these exclusions and may envy the attention their wives are receiving. The pregnancy thus intrudes into their previously well-established life and relationship with their wives. This is the beginning of the Intruder Complex.


The anticipation of this intrusion may make some of us fathers reticent to even conceiving in the first place. As a father feels this, he may begin to harbor secret doubts and wonder if the pregnancy wasn’t a mistake, even though outwardly he may declare he is ready and eager for fatherhood. He may become decidedly unexcited about this impending child. This is particularly true if the father himself grew up emotionally needy.


A father may then feel guilty and selfish for these negative, egocentric thoughts, and begin wondering what is wrong with him. Arguments may result between expecting parents. Doubts may arise about the desirability of this pregnancy and becoming parents…or… even about the marriage.


What’s important to realize is that these feelings are perfectly normal and even common. While it isn’t an easy topic to discuss, the good news is that solutions exist and these feelings almost always recede. The first book in The Psychological Survival Guide for Parents: OMG! We’re Pregnant, delves much deeper into this issue as well as providing the solutions for dealing with it and coming through the other side.


By drpaulpeebles, Oct 31 2017 05:28PM

Clearly many childcare and parenting guides, magazines, etc., already exist. Many people may wonder why there is a need for yet more parenting books in the world. Though I have come across countless books for parents in my many years as a doctor, I know of no others that discusses the important novel issues presented in regards to parents’ emotional development. All books before have concentrated on the child’s, and perhaps sometimes the mother’s, but NEVER the father’s emotional development. Nor have past books focused on the influence of parents’ interactions together on their own and the child’s development.


Most importantly, this series, The Psychological Survival Guide for Parents, helps parents to survive, to stay afloat, to cope and master the challenges. Other books, parent survival guides and magazines may offer advice, admonitions on what to do and not to do. Other books more often are simply descriptive, insightful narratives on child development. This book series offers concepts for coping, which can be individualized. It helps parents toward self-mastery without a preprogrammed format. It gives parents dignity. This book is for survival… and… survival with pride and fun!


By guest, Jun 27 2017 06:14PM

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